It is by God's hand we become a family.

These past few days, I have been busy with the wedding in my family. Its my sister Elena's marriage. She is about 5 years elder to me. She has been barely at home (this year-busy with her marriage,stuff) and hence I have hardly been spending time with her and, she is married now. Till she was around never really paid attention, but now that she is gone (to a new family) I suddenly feel this void. It is a weird feeling but feeling sad that she is gone and I barely get to see her. Though we have been hardly sharing our lives, there is this sudden emptiness in the family.. 7 have come down to 6 for the 1st time in our lives. NO NO NO! I should say that 7 have come up to 8 now. She brought some very nice people into our lives. HE is definitely a good bro-in-law. And, I am pretty sure HE is a good husband and father as well. Bro-sis relation is always an amazing one and I am sure the distance cant part you both...

This marriage has also made me think and appreciate my parents too. I have never given them any credit or helped them in anyway, but they have been the most understanding and encouraging parents I could ever wish for. They are going though the funny phase in life when they have to give away their daughter in the traditional Chinese way. I can see it in their eyes when I see them now. I don't know how it will be for them when I move away too. The last few days have made me appreciate marriages too. I really never liked the big marriages and all the things and mess that goes into it. But I think about it differently now.

I always have bad thoughts about marriage. For me, the concept of marriage is like "because we are married, you are stuck with me forever, so no matter what I do you will have to be with me." I do not believe in getting married simply because you love that person and want to be with them forever. I do not plan on avoiding marriage like the plague. If I love my boyfriend and want to be with him the rest of my life, then getting married to him should not matter, should it? I never felt the need to get married and do not see much point in it. It seems like marriage maybe is not the way to go if half of them end in divorce?

I think marriage is the most amazing institutions you just have to be careful about finding the right mate. I really believe that marriage is important for some people and not for others. It is completely that persons perspective that matters. In my opinion, if you really love someone, marriage will not hurt your relationship. Your basic argument is that when you get married you feel like you have to be with the person, whereas before you were with this person because you wanted to be. Well, millions of people walk out on their marriages each year and that sheet of paper did nothing to stop them. People have free will, if you love a person and you want to spend the rest of your life with them you will, if you are tired of them you will leave them, and marriage will not stop you. Yes, it is more difficult to leave a marriage than a relationship, thus breakups are easier than divorce, this does not mean it will stop the person who wants to leave you. Nothing can make you stay in a relationship you do not want, no matter what contracts you have signed. Marriage is not for people who do not have.

FYI, I blogged about MARRIAGE doesn't mean that I am desperate to get married. =P


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